Rape Culture is NOT Subtle – FTQA 086

FTQA 086 Rape Culture is NOT Subtle

Denise Loya and Emiliano Diaz de Leon join me for an interview about Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month (#saapm, #saam, #turntexasteal, #30daysofsaam) who work to raise awareness in the prevention of sexual assault. We’re here to have a heavy discussion on a serious topic, rape culture, its implications on our society, and what we can do … Read more

Husband’s Strength in Marriage

Husband's Strength in Marriage

This is an adapted excerpt from my November 2013 TEDx Corpus Christi Talk titled “Redefining Strength in Manhood.” Strength: The Problem When I married Olivia, I brought into my marriage the ability to express myself in only two ways, anger and humor. This would seem perfectly fine for many men in the U.S. I know personally … Read more

FTQA 070 – What is the role of a father in raising boys into non-violent men?

raising boys

Download this episode (right click and save) In a hyper-masculine culture that links violence as a part of strength in manhood, how can fathers raise boys into men with a healthy perspective of what manhood really is, relationships, and communicating emotions? Honorary Dugan, Emiliano Diaz De Leon joins me for a discussion on what is … Read more

FTQA 060 – Dedicationally! What I Think of My Son’s Friends, Plus a Message to Loveless Marriage and Divorced Dads

Divorced Dads - Advice

In this episode, Jacob and I have a father-son discussion about what I think about his friends, how his life is different and similar to his friends, and somehow I find myself on a soapbox about what men should really do about their loveless marriage as well as provide advice for divorced dads. Download this … Read more

Open Love Letter to My Wife

Open Love Letter to My Wife

My friend, Troy, is celebrating his 17th wedding anniversary this week. He asked me to help him draft a love letter to express his love for his wife, and it in turn inspired me to write my own love letter for Olivia. So, here’s my open love letter to Olivia, my wonderful wife of the past … Read more

Express Yourself – Madonna’s Missed Secret to Men for a Healthy Marriage

Express yourself

I don’t know why, but I was singing Madonna’s “Express Yourself” while making pancakes and bacon on a Saturday morning. In fact, I’m writing this twelve hours since that breakfast, and Olivia just asked me, “Are you still singing that song?” Yup. It happens. I just got “Geronimo” by Shepherd out of my head. As … Read more

Define Respect – Father-Son Discussion Episode 51 FTQA Podcast

How would you define respect?

Download this episode (right click and save) In this father-son discussion, Jerry and Jacob talk about the following: Audible.com New baseball league for Jacob LoveIsRespect.org and Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (February) Captain America on the streets of L.A. Jacob’s Question to Jerry – Where is somewhere you’d like to visit but haven’t been yet? … Read more

The Duality of Men and What We Teach Our Boys

I had the honor of attending my daughter’s performance of The Nutcracker ballet this past weekend. Olivia and Emma arrived early for warm-ups, rehearsal with the orchestra, and getting into costume. That meant “the boys” would arrive later and separately. That consisted of myself, Jacob, and my father-in-law. As “the boys” were walking through the … Read more

My Own Replacement: Operation Iraqi Freedom 2003

Originally published on May 28, 2011 February 2003, Kuwait, Decontamination drill. This vehicle would be my home for 3 months. It was a bunk, a tent, an awning, an ambulance, a command vehicle, whatever we needed it to be. I served as a U.S. Army medic invading Iraq in 2003 with the 1st Battalion, 10th … Read more